It's been overdue but time to update this part.
I have been in this for over 30 years, and I have met some great people over the years. Many wonderful subs of various levels of Kink. I am a sadist at heart. I can dial that up or down depending on the partner/sub. I do have limits to my level of sadism, if you're curious just ask. I have always kept the ideal of even in the craziest scene, there has to be safety. I grew up on the East coast, still trying to find a place here on the west coast. Public play used to be my thing when I was younger, but I have found I like more of an intimate place. I have my own playroom and love to host. It makes it easier than packing up all the rope and toys and what not.
I do laugh at the exuberance of youth that a person who barely has scratched the surface of this, yet calls themselves master this or that. Then they expect the sub they are talking to to use their chosen honorific. Sorry, you have to earn that title and understand that meaning. That kind of goes for subs, I get those who right away call me an honorific. Nope doesn't work like that. I learned a very east coast/european way to becoming a Dom, I find it lets me understand the sub's mind and be able to crawl up into it.
I am looking for someone who I can have regular ongoing sessions with, maybe someday she will come into my world.
I have a bit of a different vanilla side. I am married, and we have an open relationship practicing ENM. Early on she tried to get into being a sub, however, she has not a submissive bone in her. Pro tip, never let someone force themselves to try to be a sub. It's a train wreck LOL. I am different, and many of my subs have mentioned it. The different was amazing for them, however, as someone once said "you're different and sooner or later different scares people". I know sessions seem to have this level of intensity with me that some aren't used to.
Feel free to drop a note if you want, I don't bite, well ok maybe I do lol.
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My Ideal Person:
At the core of it all, in a D/s relationship, is a Dom taking his sub up to and into the next level of the sub’s limits; to explore her complete depth of submission and opening new horizons; then at the end of each session, bring her back down to reality. The only true limit one has is their mind, and that is at the heart of and a wonderful part of the entire D/s dynamic. Using the mind is better than any flogger, whip, or paddle, in existence. For once the Dom has crawled up into her mind, the sub has a willingness to please and lets herself go in the knowing trust that her Sir will not violate that bond. On many levels, this is what happens over time as the D/s relationship builds and has time to develop. This can become deeper than most marriages, and it is a wonderous thing to experience, for both the Dom and the sub.
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